Comments on: Forgiveness heals us https://comefollowmestudy.com/forgiveness-heals-us/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=forgiveness-heals-us Unlocking the simple and super relatable lessons in every scripture through powerful study Sun, 20 Mar 2022 05:16:36 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: caliblack25 https://comefollowmestudy.com/forgiveness-heals-us/#comment-12139 Sun, 20 Mar 2022 05:16:36 +0000 https://comefollowmestudy.com/?p=7708#comment-12139 In reply to Webdy.

That is an amazing story of forgiveness! Thank you for sharing!

]]> By: Webdy https://comefollowmestudy.com/forgiveness-heals-us/#comment-12019 Thu, 17 Mar 2022 14:04:41 +0000 https://comefollowmestudy.com/?p=7708#comment-12019 I was married young to a friend of my brothers from his mission. It was a whirlwind courtship and engagement. My rose colored glasses were thick and despite some warning signs we got married in the temple.
We had 3 kids in 3-1/2 years together and we struggled in a lot of ways, but I thought it was just normal stuff and was dedicated to getting through it. Nine months after our 3rd was born, he told me he didn’t love me anymore and that he had found someone new. I tried everything to try and save our marriage, only to realize I couldn’t make him try.
As I attended the temple and tried my best to keep the commandments, the Lord blessed me with comfort to move on with my life and we got divorced a year later.
I met and married a man who loves me and I love equally. But to be honest even after I found and married the love of my life, I still felt anger and resentment towards my ex husband.
Our youngest son started really struggling and it got so bad I didn’t know how to handle it on my own. The spirit started nudging me to talk to his dad, but I didn’t want help from him because I had been left to parent by myself by him. We didn’t live in the same state and he rarely contacted the kids. But I still felt a nudge. And I was given a spiritual insight that helped me overcome my feelings.. I imagined going to heaven(and the temple) and having him and his wife there and I wondered if I would choose to not be there because of my unforgiving attitude. And I decided in my heart that I couldn’t jeopardize my eternal life for my anger and hurt.
I finally broke down and realized I needed his help and we needed to work together to help our son. He was part of them and so I reached out. We talked over the phone for an hour and he acknowledged the hurt he caused and I even said sorry for doing things that may have pushed him away from the gospel!! I shocked myself, but we even shed tears on the phone.
It was an amazing experience! I felt that I could finally move forward and honestly felt free and even a sense of gratitude. I often feel gratitude towards him now for all that I’ve learned, who I’ve become, that I can help others through trials and for the relationship I have with him where we can talk and help our children (we’ve been able to talk when we need to help them).
It took me 7 years to truly forgive him, but I finally feel free from that burden. I’d thought I’d forgiven him before, but it hadn’t been deep and lasting. It’s strange to feel so much gratitude for him and honestly that I found the husband I have now because of it all (we were both married previously), but the Lord has a plan and has tails so much through all of this. I have so much more empathy in life than I did, I’m less judgmental and can connect with many people because of that and feel compassion for others. The Lord taught me how to forgive and I’ve been able to really put it in his hands.

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