Marriage is the bomb, but it’s not the finish line.
I don’t think anyone has ever explicitly said that it is, but over the past 10 years as most of my friends have gotten married, I’ve noticed this attitude of wanting to make it to a temple marriage, and then life will be good from there.
Like I said, marriage is fantastic.
But anyone who’s married knows it’s most certainly not the finish line for life.
I think we sometimes fall into setting a standard for when we’ve “made it” –
Whether it’s getting married, finally remembering to read scriptures every day, once all your kids serve missions, once you have a certain calling…
We can read the words “endure to the end” and think of getting “good enough” and then just coasting.
But Rebecca M. Craven taught us recently that “enduring to the ends means CHANGING until the end”.
Marriage is a fantastic goal to have and a fun milestone to meet, but LUCKILY my husband and I have changed a lot over our past 7 years.
And we are excited to change even more.
We endure together by changing together, improving, maturing, and loving better.
In marriage, in any role that we hold, and as an individual, we not only CAN always improve, but we SHOULD always improve.
Our humble general authorities are beautiful examples of this, sharing their journeys of faith, their new discoveries, their changes…
We never get to just cruise in autopilot.
Maybe that’s an intimidating thought.
But I like it.
I’m never gonna earn it and then just endure. I’ll always have something to work on.
Fun, huh?!
That’s how we will stand guiltless before God on judgment day:
Not because we are perfect and actually blameless.
But because we changed every day all the way to the end.
Happy Studying!
-Cali Black
4 Responses
I love that. I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately. There were several conference talks from this past conference that touched on this and I too am glad that we get to change and improve every single day. Learn, grow, grow grow!
Yes, such a big theme from Conference! It’s been on my mind a lot, too.
Thank you for sharing your insights and thoughts. They have helped me to think about my life and improving and I have changed and learned lessons throughout my 62 years in life. Enduring to the end is a daily quest.
Thank you, and that sounds like an awesome goal to have! <3