When I was a teenager, every evening, one of my parents would call up to my bedroom, “Dinner is almost ready! Time to come help!”
It was the expectation that my sisters and I would help set the table and get the food ready to be served.
The problem was…
They always asked me to come and help at the most inconvenient times.
I was always in the middle of some math problem, or writing an essay, or reading a book, or talking with a friend.
It was never a good time.
And so, more often than I care to admit, about five minutes later, the call would come up the stairs again, “Cali, we need your help! Come on down!”
The thing about calls to service are that they rarely come at a convenient time.
Whether it’s your mom, your kid, your neighbor…
I’m sure I’m always “in the middle of something”.
But what I’ve learned as I’ve matured, and thank goodness that teenage Cali matured, is that service isn’t about us.
My parents weren’t trying to inconvenience me and annoy me and make my life harder.
They just straight up needed help.
My mom or dad had already just made dinner for me (DEFINITELY did not appreciate that as much as I should have!), and they were asking for help getting everything ready to go on the table.
And my sisters who had already gotten downstairs needed help with their tasks so it wasn’t all on them.
This was not about me and if I was in a convenient stopping point. At all.
It was about the people who needed help.
When the Lord called someone to serve in D&C 117:14, the reason given for him to come speedily to fulfill his assignment wasn’t just because the Lord wanted him to be rushed and inconvenienced.
It was “for the benefit of my people.”
People around us need help. And when they ask for help or when we feel that prompting, it’s not about what works best for us.
(Although yes, I’m all for setting healthy boundaries when needed.)
It’s all about the benefit of the person in need.
Happy Studying!
-Cali Black
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As always, Spot On!
Thank you for your great brain and heart!
Thank you! 🙂
This is exactly how I felt by being called as a YW president right before my husband and I had planned to get me off my medication, so we could try for a baby, AND when I got offered a job to save money for a house. It seemed like a crazy time to be doing a stressful calling, and I often second guessed it, like why did the lord call me when he knows I can’t and shouldn’t be stressing myself out with no medication available. But it’s about these girls. And I hope I can keep the faith to continue serving them when it’s hard. And to make it through these days to help and serve his children. I also found a job helping others and it’s been really hard but now I can see it also is part of his plan.
Thank you for sharing! I’m sure you are an incredible leader! <3